David Kwan asked:


I get asked over and over and OVER again by guys wanting to know what is the one ‘key’ secret to success when approaching women. Have you ever wondered why is it that certain guys are able to just walk up to any woman, whisper a few words and instantly be able to connect with women?

And why certain guys just CAN’T seem to do it no matter how hard they try? Well, the DIFFERENCE lies in the fact that guys who are great with women, they just DON’T CARE. They don’t care about the outcome of the approach.

They don’t care what the woman he’s approaching thinks. He just goes ahead and do whatever he feels like doing & he’s genuinely out there to HAVE FUN. You see, I look around and I’ve noticed most guys actually do not have ‘problems’ with women at all.

These guys are like any other guys, they know how to kid around, they know how to have fun with their friends – basically they have great characters & personalities. BUT for some odd, unexplainable reason, these very same guys — they suddenly become a totally DIFFERENT person especially when their around women they like, women they want.

They start acting a little nervous, they become all fidgity and stuff and they simply lose it. Coincidently, they just can’t seem to know how to act the way they normally do, what to say, etc when she’s around.

You’ve seen that happened lots of times right? So what is the best way to overcome this then? Simple. Whenever you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, imagine her looking like Princess Fiona. (Yes! She’s Shrek’s wife, duuh!).

Now, with that ‘picture’ in stuffed in your mind, do you think you’ll have any problems walking up to her, busting her balls as and when you like and acting perfectly like how you’d act around other more ‘average’ looking type of women?

I sure as hell know you won’t. Now, in all honesty, I know it might sound silly to you – but trust me, this technique will work WONDERS for you if you actually go out and TRY it.

Why let her beauty intimidate you? Just imagine her being of the GROSSEST looking woman you’ve met, someone who picks her nose in public places, someone who’s just plain filthy. Stick that image of her in your brain and then walk up to her and do your thang.

I guarantee you, you’ll see a TON of a difference in the way to talk, tease & flirt with her. Why? Because for once, you’re NOT intimidated by her beauty anymore & you just DON’T CARE about the outcome. You’re just treating her like the thousands of average- looking women out there.

They key to it all, like I’ve always said is for you to GENUINELY have fun whenever you’re out. Don’t go out looking to ‘get laid’. Instead – have a good time. Irrespective of whether you managed to get laid that night, if you’re out there just chilling, relaxing and having an enjoyable time with your buddies, that positive vibe that you’re projecting will naturally bounce off others.

Positive vibe spreads – like wildfire. Women will notice guys who know how to have fun. Most of them ’secretly’ want in on the fun too, you know Get it?

Approaching a woman and starting a conversation without rejection is an ‘art’ AND a skill. And yes, it can be learned.



Debra